Why does she hestitate to Introduce him to her girlfriends?

I get this question from more men than anyone else because they are not familiar with the game.  Here we go with this madness.  The reason why most women hesitate to introduce their man to their friends is based on three considerations.  1) The women are trying to hedge against the negative feed-back by prolonging the introduction, and 2) minimizing the possibility of one of the girlfriends having a go at him, and  3) to pre-empt the reality of him finding out that he might not have selected the best woman in the lot.

I know this may be controversial, but so true because by the very pressures applied to women, they are commonly classified as insecure and therefore the three considerations are valid.  In all fairness, I have gone through that situation dating a woman that prolonged the introduction to her friends.  After under-going this a couple of times in my younger years, I decided to place a cap on the time I was willing to deal with the whole friend approval and vetting process, “One meeting or evening” and that was it.

Now there are mainly three reasons why a woman tries to keep you away from her friends initially.  And they as follows:

1) Fearing that he may not be good enough.

2) Fear that one of the girls might like him enough for a challenge.

3) Fear that he may discover that the two of them are not such a great fit and one of her girlfriends may be better.

This fear comes from insecurity and yes there are those that have girlfriends that say they would never act upon an impulse, but no one can read the minds of others, but can only go by their past behavior.  So in many ways this degree of uncertainty is justified.  However, in many respects some women need to grow-up and not allow their girlfriends to assist in predicting their happiness.

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